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Couples preference analysis

Men are shyer than you think

When a man says yes to an intimate activity, 19% of those yeses are the shy “Yes, but I’m shy about it” rather than an open “Love this!”. That is roughly one in five. The stereotype says men are always boldly up for it, the data shows they get shy too.

A man's yes does not always mean “Love this!”

81%confident “Love this!” 19%shy “Yes, but I’m shy about it”
One in five of a man's yeses is shy willingness, not open delight.

The shy yes, level by level

How many yeses come with a blush, from the gentlest activities to the most explicit, for men, with women alongside. Men climb from 17% to 24%; women stay a little higher at every level.

Women Men
[OC]Source: anonymous couples quiz · 6,596 couples, 91,862 responses

Where men are the shyest

The activities where a man's yes most often comes shy. For curiosity, women's share sits alongside - and here they blush a touch more. Shyness, it turns out, is neither only a male nor only a female thing.

Women Men
[OC]Source: anonymous couples quiz · 6,596 couples, 91,862 responses

Method

Both partners answer the quiz separately, never seeing each other’s choices. For every yes a man gives - “Yes, but I’m shy about it” or “Love this!” - we check which it was and count the shy share. Only levels and activities with enough yes answers from men are shown. Anonymized and aggregated; no response can be traced to a person or couple.

Data is refreshed once a day. Last update: 05.09.2026, 04:45

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