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Couples preference analysis

Shared curiosity, shared shyness

In an anonymous quiz, each partner rated intimate activities on their own. Neither saw the other’s answers. This is how often both wanted the same thing and both picked the shy yes.

27% of couples
have at least one activity both want while both feel shy about it
65% of the activities a couple rates, at least one of the two is up for it
42% of the activities a couple rates, both are up for it with an open yes

How many activities get a shy yes from both

For each couple, the number of activities where both, answering separately, chose “Yes, but I’m shy about it.” 73% of couples have none, 27% have one or more.

[OC]Source: anonymous couples quiz · 6,489 couples, 90,452 responses

Plenty of interest, few matching shy yeses

Among the activities an average couple rates, most are wanted by at least one partner. Far fewer by both openly. Rarest of all is the double shy yes, when both want it and both feel shy.

[OC]Source: anonymous couples quiz · 6,489 couples, 90,452 responses

The activities where couples most often match on a shy yes

Share of couples where both independently chose the shy-yes on the same activity.

[OC]Source: anonymous couples quiz · 6,489 couples, 90,452 responses

Method

Both partners completed the whole quiz separately, never seeing each other’s answers. For each activity (with a plain description and illustration) they picked one of four answers: “Definitely no”, “If my partner wants”, “Yes, but I’m shy about it” and “Love this!”. A couple counts on an activity only when both independently chose “Yes, but I’m shy about it.” Anonymized and aggregated; no response can be traced to a person or couple.

Data is refreshed once a day. Last update: 04.09.2026, 04:45

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