Shared curiosity, shared shyness
In an anonymous quiz, each partner rated intimate activities on their own. Neither saw the other’s answers. This is how often both wanted the same thing and both picked the shy yes.
How many activities get a shy yes from both
For each couple, the number of activities where both, answering separately, chose “Yes, but I’m shy about it.” 76% of couples have none, 25% have one or more.
Plenty of interest, few matching shy yeses
An average couple rates a dozen or so activities in a round. Most are wanted by at least one partner, fewer than half by both. Rarest of all: both want it and both feel shy.
The activities where couples most often match on a shy yes
Share of couples where both independently chose the shy-yes on the same activity.
Method
Both partners completed the whole round separately, never seeing each other’s answers. For each activity (with a plain description and illustration) they picked one of four answers: “Definitely no”, “If my partner wants”, “Yes, but I’m shy about it” and “Love this!”. Being up for it means answering “Yes, but I’m shy about it” or “Love this!”; “both are up for it” means both picked one of them. A double shy yes counts only when both independently chose “Yes, but I’m shy about it.” Anonymized and aggregated; no response can be traced to a person or couple.
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