Not everything mild is an easy yes
The rule says the bolder the idea, the fewer people want it. It mostly holds - and then it breaks. A few things that sound completely tame collect fewer yes answers than anal sex or sex in a public place. Below we suggest what they have in common; that part is our reading, not a measurement.
Four pairs where the tame idea loses
On top the practice most people would call daring, below one that sounds harmless. The percentage is the share of people who answered “Yes, but I’m shy about it” or “Love this!”
From the most common yes to the rarest
Color marks only the drawer a practice falls into in everyday talk. The drawers overlap: the most wanted things on this list are tame ones, and several tame ones sit below anal sex.
What these tame ideas have in common (our reading)
Some practices sound harmless and land at the bottom anyway. Two things keep coming back in them. The data doesn’t show these are the reasons; it’s our hypothesis.
Someone else is in the room. In the game, every one of these photo sessions happens in a studio with a professional photographer. Saying yes means undressing, down to lingerie or further, in front of a stranger and holding a pose while that person looks on. That third person may be the hard part.
You have to act. Playing a role means pretending to be someone else in front of a person who sees you at breakfast every day. Saying yes to something daring as yourself may be easier than in a part you have to perform.
Method
Both partners answer separately, without seeing each other. Every percentage here is a share of people, not couples, so a couple where one wants it and the other doesn’t counts as half. A person counts when they chose “Yes, but I’m shy about it” or “Love this!” A practice appears only once at least 100 different couples have answered it, and the whole page needs at least 500 couples. The split into daring and harmless is ours and deliberately covers only cases nobody would argue about. Anonymized and aggregated; no answer can be traced to a person or couple.
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