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Couples preference analysis

Men are shyer than you think

When a man says yes to an intimate activity, 21% of the time it is the shy “Yes, but I'm a little shy” rather than an open “Love this!”. Among women it is 28%. The stereotype says shyness is a female thing - here is what the numbers show.

28% of women's yes answers
vs
21% of men's yes answers
are the shy “Yes, but I'm a little shy” - not the open “Love this!”

The shy yes, level by level

Share of yes answers that come with a blush, from the gentlest activities to the most explicit. Men go from 20% to 27%, women from 26% to 33%.

Women Men
[OC]Source: anonymous couples quiz · 3,122 couples, 44,267 responses

Where men are the shyest

The activities where a man's yes most often comes shy. Women's share sits next to it - compare for yourselves.

Women Men
[OC]Source: anonymous couples quiz · 3,122 couples, 44,267 responses

Method

Both partners answer the quiz separately, never seeing each other's choices. For every yes answer - “Yes, but I'm a little shy” or “Love this!” - we check which of the two it was and count the shy share separately for women and men. Only levels and activities with enough yes answers from each gender are shown. Anonymized and aggregated; no response can be traced to a person or couple.

Data is refreshed once a day. Last update: 07.07.2026, 12:20

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