Open Relationships: How Many Couples Actually Want One
What couples answer
When people answer quiz questions about opening the relationship to other people with their partner, the split looks like this:
| Answer | Share of partners |
|---|---|
| Love it | 14.3% |
| Gladly | 7.7% |
| Rather not | 13% |
| Not for me | 65% |
This is the broadest category we track around other people: everything from an evening with another couple to arrangements where one partner is present but not involved. Two things stand out. The first is how far the appetite sits below the cultural conversation, which tells you something about how much of that conversation is entertainment rather than intent. The second is counterintuitive: couples agree with each other here more often than in almost any category we track, because most of the time they agree on no. Disagreement is rarer than the topic’s reputation suggests, and that is exactly why it lands so hard when it does happen - the curious partner usually has no idea they are the exception rather than part of a wave.
How to read these numbers
This one is a minority taste: 22 out of 100 partners answer positively. If it is your thing, that is worth knowing too - it makes an honest conversation about opening the relationship to other people more valuable, not less.
The gap between “love it” (14.3%) and “gladly” (7.7%) matters as well: the first group brings enthusiasm, the second brings openness. And remember these are individual answers, not couples - an interested partner does not automatically mean an interested pair. The only way to find out is to ask, or to let a game ask for you.
Do you know which side your partner is on?
In 27.6% of couples, one partner says yes and the other says no to something in this category, while in 16.7% both say yes to at least one of these questions. A mismatch is not a failure state. It is the normal condition of two different people, and it only turns into a problem when nobody says it out loud.
About this data
The numbers come from quiz data from more than 5,400 couples (over 30,200 individual answers) playing Privé, a private quiz game for two. We only count rounds where both partners finished, we exclude test accounts, and we only publish a statistic when at least 500 answers stand behind it. Individual answers are never visible to anyone - in the game itself, an answer is only ever revealed to a partner when both said yes to the same thing. Data read in September 2026.
A note on these numbers. They come from people who chose to play a game about intimacy, so as a group we lean more open than the general population. Read these percentages as a reference point for couples like you, not as a portrait of society.
And if any question puts you in the one percent, on either side, that is fine. Preferences are not a contest the majority wins. What matters is that you both agree and that nobody gets hurt.
See how the two of you compare
Averages are a conversation starter, not a verdict - the only split that matters is the one between the two of you. Play a free round of Privé: you each answer the same questions separately, and only the things you both said yes to are revealed.